Sunday, February 11, 2018

Difficult, but the Important Family Discussions...

Your Living Will...
Your Durable Power of Attorney for Health Care...
Have you had these important discussions with your loved ones?

Thank you for all your kind words in regards 
to my mother's death five years ago.
All of these memories have been showing up in my
Facebook Memories Newsfeed.

This one is a strong reminder of the importance 
of having your healthcare wishes in writing...

Caring for Mom ~More about Compassionate Choices.
The day after surgery to repair mom's hip, she suffered a stroke.
We were there in Grand Forks, sitting by her side.

She could visit some, but our conversations were very confusing.
As the weekend progressed, she became more and more non-responsive.


The hospital staff was so caring. One of the nurses gave me a booklet,
"Gone From My Sight, The Dying Experience".
When someone is dying, they actually have one foot in each world.
They are separating and distancing themselves from the people and events here on earth,
and are seeing a glimpse of their new life in their new 'home'.

So...it was time...
Time to make a very important decision.
Time to change mom's level of care to "comfort care".

She was not going to get any better.
And, as a patient in the hospital, 
the staff were trying to wake her
to take blood, and her blood pressure...
for physical and occupational therapy...
and to eat three meals a day.

So, the obvious decision had to be made.
We needed to change the level of her care to 'Comfort Care'.

There I was...standing there...56 years old...
thinking, this is my mommy,
shouldn't she be making decisions for me?

And she did, she had...

It was in her Living Will.
I needed to sign those papers.
I needed to let her go.

As an only child, I so wished I had a sibling to help make these choices.
I am so glad that my hubby was with me and was so supportive.
We said our goodbyes and returned home, 
to prepare for mom's move to a nursing home.

Take care,
~Natalie
p.s. these photos were taken during a much happier time 
when Emily, Hubby and I visted Amy in Rochester.  
There are some fabulous antique stores in that area.

Wednesday, February 7, 2018

Five Years Ago ~Miss Me...But Let Me Go

On this day, five years ago,
I said goodbye to my mother.

She had fallen and broken her hip.
At 92 years old, her body was so fragile.
After surgery, she suffered a stroke and died a few days later.
She now lives in a better place,
where her mind is sharp and her body is free from pain.

This was one of my favorite posts from February 2013

My always organized Mother keep all of her important papers in one place...
...in this vintage metal box.
It was in a small safe, with other important items, on the floor of her closet.

In this special (and always mysterious) box, I found birth certificates,
social security cards, my daddy's death certificate...
...and my mom's obituary that she had written for herself.

Tucked inside her Obituary, in her perfect penmanship,
was this poem. I want to share my find with our daughters,
Amy and Emily,
and with our extended family and my mom's friends.

Miss Me...But Let Me Go
When I come to the end of the road
And the sun has set for me,
I want no rites in a gloom filled room.
Why cry for a soul set free?

Miss me a little but not too long,
And not with your head bowed low.
Remember the love that we once shared,
Miss me, but let me go.

For this is a journey we all must take,
And each must go alone.
It's all a part of the Master's plan,
A step on the road to home.

When you are lonely and sick at heart,
Go to the friends we know
And bury your sorrows in doing good deeds.
Miss me, but let me go.
Anonymous


Take care, 
~Natalie

Saturday, February 3, 2018

Here's Are Just a Few of My Favorite Photos of our Birthday Girl

 
Happy Birthday to Amy.


The years have gone so fast!

She is still our fun loving,
cat loving,
and hard working,
first born daughter that made this couple...
a family of three.


She has enjoyed many new experiences, all over the world,
and is now ready to start a little family of their own.

One thing is certain,
there will be a celebration for every holiday,
for every special occasion.
She treasures time with family and friends.







She always has a smile on her face...

...and shares delight with all that know her.
She is going to be a wonderful mother.

Amy, we hope you enjoyed your birthday.

Take care,
~Natalie

Thursday, February 1, 2018

Thankful Thursday ~These Special Photos ~The Little Things that Make Me Smile


The expectant parents recently participated in a 
professional photo session and shared the photos with us.
Since they live so far away, 
I really cherish any snapshot (or snapchat) of baby's progress.

Today, we have another reason to celebrate.
A reward for his hard work,
Nick is receiving a promotion.

And since then, Nick has also earned a graduate degree.
We are so proud of his accomplishments.

Congratulations, Nick and Amy.
We all have so much to be thankful for!

Take care,
~Natalie

Monday, January 29, 2018

Monday Memories ~On This Date

 
January 29, 2013
It was perhaps the coldest day of that winter, five years ago.
We had received word that my mother had fallen and  broken her hip.
Because she was 92 years old and had heart problems, 
she was considered a high risk patient,
so was transfered to the hospital in Grand Forks.

It was cold in Aberdeen, but even colder in Grand Forks.

Not knowing how long I would be gone, 
I prepared several lessons for the substitute teacher.

January 29, 2012
Fitness for Life students were studying proteins
and learned the art of making a homemade breakfast burrito.

January 29, 2014
This was the year I had broken both of my wrists.
On this day, 
I had received the clearance to leave my soft splints at home.

To celebrate, hubby bought a new watch for me.
I had not worn a watch or a bracelet for nearly four months!

January 29, 2015
I enjoyed making a crockpot of soup for my knitting club.

Hubby had a new bag for his cymbal hardware,
and Callie needed to break it in.

Boston received that record snowfall.
Emily and Jake were coping with that mess.

January 29, 2016
Everyone needs some extra motivation 
to get through the long month of January.

We enjoyed some Friday Night Jazz at the Brass Kettle.
This was before their big rennovation.
 .
January 29, 2017
We took a break from our Saturday errands
and enjoyed some appetizers at Mavericks.
These are their delicious Moo Shu Egg Rolls

January 29, 2018
I was up at 5:30 this morning.
This was the view of the moon from our patio.
The official Super Blue Blood Moon Happening is not until the 31st.

Today, I eavesdropped on this conversation.
I told them that their secrets were safe with me.

I hope you had a marvelous Monday!

Take care,
~Natalie

Friday, January 26, 2018

TGIF ~Friday Finds ~The Boston Public Market

If I lived in Boston, I would come here as often as possible.

Which, to be quite honest, would not be that often.
We drove to a different suburb, paid for the parking garage,
took the T downtown, and walked several blocks.

But it was well worth the effort...
I enjoyed the fabulous displays of seafood.

Scallops are my favorite!

This Dakota girl could not believe the price of ground beef!



Check out the fresh pasta...



And the homemade bread.



A caramel apple for your sweet tooth?

I spent some time browsing here.






There is something for everyone's taste buds!

It was a great afternoon in the city.
Thank you!

Take care,
~Natalie